View Full Version : How can I make foreigner friends in Nagoya?
2004-01-05, 08:21 AM
I want foregner friends.I tried to talk people in english at bar.but i am afraid that they think Im a easy girl...and they just wanna have a sex soon.I don't need like that.
I was in oversea for 8months,I could make some local good friends both guys and girls.
Could you tell me how to make foregner friends without bar in Japan?
2004-01-05, 08:42 AM
make it clear from the begining that you are looking for friendship and not relationship.
Perhaps, try to talk to women first.
If the guy you talked to is a bit dodgy or becomes very much interested (i.e: when shall we meet again? have you got a boyfriend? do you want to come to my house?...) walk away.
Also, beware of person called Kent Brockman > cause he ain't looking for no friendship with girl!!
On behalf of the gaijin community who are or/and once were living in japan, thank you for wanting to socialise with us.
To all gaijin male on gaijinpot.
For goodness sake, please respect japanese women wanting to socialise and please don't take advantage of such situation.
2004-01-05, 01:06 PM
My sonar has picked up the semblance of a silhouette of some sort of "insinuation", perhaps directed towards my former host?
Yes, happycola, bugboy's right, Whether you meet chaps on public transport/bars/the gym/your local nose-hair-quilt-weaving circle, you need to be direct with men from the outset (although DO NOT say "Let's be friends". That is terrifying, and will quickly lead to you being referred to as "Ralph Wiggum" behind your back)
Men are stupid. Hell, my former host, in his peculiarly solipsistic "man" way, was 90% convinced that every woman that sat down next to him on public transport was quote " gagging for it" unquote.
<<<do not mistakenly blurt this one out.. but memorise it just in case...>>>
"KENT BROCKMAN SAYS I HAVE GENITAL HERPES SO I SHOULD STOP SLEEPING WITH MOST MEN AND JUST BE FRIENDS WITH THEM. HEY! LET'S BE FRIENDS!"
2004-01-05, 04:28 PM
You might also want to try going for what the japanese call 交流会 with a Japanese language school or 文化 センタ。 Usually they have some people who could speak english, and be your friend. Other than that, I am available too ^^ (for mails, cause I am in Tokyo)
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2004-01-06, 01:27 AM
"To all gaijin male on gaijinpot.
For goodness sake, please respect japanese women wanting to socialise and please don't take advantage of such situation. "
Bugboy... She wants to talk to foreigners, and if they wanted to talk to her, they might just do that. There would be no need for this thread. Instead, she's having trouble finding such men. It's not like there's a little oasis of good men somewhere in Nagoya, just waiting for a nice single lady so that they can _not_ take advantage of her.
The problem lies with the expectations. If there is indeed a little oasis of such men who just want to be friendly and have some prime chit-chat (which could perhaps be viewed as free eikaiwa) with young women, then I hope she finds them, but it's not likely.
I'm not endorsing all the slimy bastards out there, but it's not all one way, they want something for nothing, and perhaps, so does she. In almost all sucessful exchanges (not limited to fluidic ones) both people have something to offer the other.
Ah, I've lost the energy for this... Just think about it.
The guys who "don't want anything" still want something, they're just willing to wait longer to get it. Or maybe I'm just cynical... Nah, f**k it, they want something.
PS: Tomoko you squirming worm, about those nasty down under bugs that you get from "friends"... I heard an attractive young lady the other night telling her prospective other about her diseases. Kind of funny, cause it was at hatsumode, and not the kind of thing you'd expect to overhear while waiting in line at a temple.
2004-01-06, 05:09 AM
2004-01-11, 05:55 PM
Where 'overseas' where you? You could use that as your introduction. Find someone from wherever you spent time, i.e. Los Angeles/London/Germany and go from there. Choose bars carefully, or try the areas around the International Schools near the Nagoya- Mae Eki station.
Sadly, no matter what your intentions are most guys are indeed going to want, and as pointed out in another post, wait for sex; post contact. Up to you how you handle the contact(s), Just know what's likely on their minds, as they may misconstrue your advances for Gayru-Nanpa.
2004-01-15, 10:28 AM
hello Meg, how are you? you can make friends in nagoya. I would like to meet you . Iam also in nagoya and want to be your friend. I dont look for sex, just want a good friendship. its it ok?
2004-01-17, 02:11 PM
I respect the Japanese woman and I will be friends with anyone but if they only want to use me for a free lesson I will take all I can.
My advice to happycola is to be a real friend and not an eikaiwa leech and you will make friends galore.
Good luck and I hope you make friends.
It's not hard to make friends in Nagoya. I'm from Brazil and we usually meet friends from every place like New Zeeland, USA, Canada, Australia, and, of course lots of Japanese. If if you want, contact me and I tell you greats spot to make friends...
answering emails helps :)
2004-03-03, 11:23 PM
Bugboy's right Happycola, if it's just friendship you are after, why don't you go up to the girls and talk to them? You're far less likely to be misinterpereted. Also, tell the person how much you HATE Disney and don't ever EVER mention the word 'kawaii' about ANYTHING. Also tell them that you don't like Louis Vuitton and how you are NOT on a diet.