sexless marriage part two

[thickmick]

I was talking to a phillipima who is married to a JPN and I was asking her if was true the the phillipino would do it three times a night like a rabbit quick and to the point .She found it incredible that any one could do it three times a night ( where has she been living )

Even at my age I could do that now and again , of course I offered my services because I am a gent , my point being that if you are not getting any ,you have to keep on hammering away until they are fed up with the constant nagging and whining ,after all when its done they can roll back over and go to sleep which is a lot less tiring ,maybe I just figured out why they want to sleep in a different room .

[kurogane]

"maybe I just figured out why they want to sleep in a different room ."

Speak for yourself, you tragically sensitive male, you ;)

[thickmick]

A man after my own heart , I usually mnake her a very strong margarita and tell het tp pretend I am Koizumi

[madmaxxam]

Since this is a part 2, shouldn't it have a link to the part 1?

http://www.gaijinpot.com/forums/read.php?f=23&i=1057&t=1057

Just in case that gets scrolled too far down and people want to see how it started.

[petite noe]

That is kinda insensitive of you to think that just doing sex to stop the nagging is an easy thing for women to do.

Sometimes when giving in just to make someone shut up, the sex either feels gross, is boring and unexciting, or, in the worst case, makes a woman feel very violated, but of course being your wife/girlfriend she probably wouldn`t bring that up.

Just try and put yourself in the woman`s point of view... yes, sex is sex and everyone needs it, but getting it the wrong way can be very damaging.

[thickmick]

If the sex does feel gross or unexciting or you feel used ,just think it is better than all that nagging and it is over in a few minutes ,and then all you have to do is wipe yourself and then get another beer for your man ,ain`t married life grand ....its great to be the bread winner !

[petite noe]

If you want a woman who wants useless unemotional sex, go get a prostitute. Sheesh. Or is that your definition of sex with a Japanese woman? I know a lot of guys on here talk crap about them, but come on, show a little respect for them, alright? I`m sick of men bitching about Japanese women. THEY WILL NEVER BE LIKE THE WOMEN BACK HOME! GET IT THROUGH YOUR "THICK" HEAD. Pun may or may not be intended.

[imTony]

kurogane,

How can I be sure you wont just run off with some young piece of ___ when age gets the best of me, huh?! : )

[imTony]

On another note, I also get sick of people bitching about Japanese women / Japanese everything

I would say, "If you don't like it, then go home." But... marriage makes that difficult, now doesn't it?

I don't mean to sound like an overly-romantic tool, but aside from the sex, how is the marriage? Do you LOVE her? Or... are the kids the only thing keeping you with her?

Maybe I am just saying this because I have never been anywhere close to getting married, but I cannot understand how a man (or woman, for that matter) could get married and then proceed to lead a sexless life. I could never let that happen.

I understand petite noe's point, but these guys aren't talking about being turned down every once in a while. This isn't toughing it out through the period. If you have been married for years and can actually COUNT (on one hand no less) the number of times you have had sex because you are rejected so much... then yeah... I would say that there was a problem (Japanese wife or otherwise.) Can't you, too, petite noe?

[JR3]

Hey I've been reading about this sexless marriage and there is one thing I wonder...
I'm a young Japanese girl, who need to do like more than a couple of times a day when I'm hanging out with my bf....and I often initiate sex, too.

I can't ever imagine myself having no lust at all.... So what do you think,guys? Will I be just like one of these Japanese wives in the future? I'm a bit worried....I don't want my life to be boring and passionless when I get married some day,you know...

[Da Gster]

Well . . . . .
Us guys dont really know what happens to women after children. Its seems from reading these posts that many women dont enjoy sex afterwards. In my case that hasnt been a problem. But I do wish my wife would initiate it herself more. That is the one complaint I have.

JR3, you are wiser for having read these posts. Remember for after you get married that if there hasnt been sex for a long time, your husband is going crazy. Also remember that sex for men is different than sex for women. For men sex is a great release of physical pressure. The longer that there hasnt been sex the more pressure builds up.

[thickmick]

petite koe you can be cruel with those carefully crafted words ,I am glad you hinted there might be a pun I would have been lost otherwise .If I was going to get a prostitute that would cost money and I am already spending loads being married because that what we get married for so we can get an endless supply of sex from the wife and when she stops putting out men feel agrieved , and bloated testicles if they don`t jerk off.

If the wives are not putting out the first thing they should do is talk about the underlying problem ,i.e. is the sex no good, is the wife too tired, is the husband always drunk and smelly from beer or tobacco ,or does she just feel used ,bert if they don{t talk they will never know .

I think some don{t do it just because it is fashionable not to do it .....

I did read recently ( allan pease ( that the sex drive of the asian man is lower than the average man , I wonder if it is the same for the woman ??

[imTony]

adamface,

My parents also went through a divorce, but it wasn't at all ugly - and didn't affect me. On the other hand, my aunt and uncle are going through a rather nasty one now, and it is tearing my cousins apart. So it's good for you to think of your son, I only wish that your wife could be more understanding.


JR3,

Have you spent lots of time abroad?

[she_pimp]

Geez man no wonder some of you guys can't get laid. You think offering your sexual services to a woman makes you a "gent?" With the kind of attitude you have, it's just going to get most ladies annoyed rather than turned on.
Stop acting like you're God's gift to women and go get yourself a reality check.

[adamface]

noble advice coming from someone with the nickname "she_pimp"

anyways, some people take these posts way to seriously
lighten up

[JR3]

Not a lot but yes, I have spent some time abroad. Why?



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[thickmick]

She primp we are not offering sexual services we are taking what is ours, we paid and we want to get laid what is wrong with that ?

To put the Boot on the other shoe what would the woman do if we did not come up with the monthly wages, how long do you think she would out up with that ? She would soon make a decision and it would not take as long as one year ,they would soon decide we were worthless boot us out and get a new one if possible .

p.s I am getting laid , as you so crudely put you should have your mouth washed out with water,
young lady.

[Code Rot]

Pardon me for being obscene, but I always find the first emission of the day is always a waste of time. It comes out too much, too fast. I have been unable to discipline myself to keep it in for longer.
But wait an hour or two, and do it again, and things are much more interesting. Maybe it is because my liquids haven't had the chance to replenish themselves, so they are unable to go erupting in a premature way. It's like the Karma Sutra. I can torture* the girl in a variety of different positions and reenact the scenes from my favourite sordid porn movies. That's the way it is meant to be.

The climax is always the anti-climax.

You got to keep hammering away, as thickmick wisely concluded.

* Note to the PC Crew -- (When I say "I can torture the girl" I am talking in an erotic way -- "I can torture the girl with erotic feelings. I don't mean physical torture -- just erotic torture, which is a normal part of sex.) And what girl doesn't dream of being erotically tortured -- again and again -- by the man of her dreams?



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[kurogane]

I wish to announce my intention to revoke my Man Card. You guys are idiots.

And this is me, King of the Idiots saying it.

Not you, eh, Tony? Besides, how can I know whether you will still need me when I'm 64?

petite noe,
Don't be so bloody polite. Let these wanky morons have both barrels.

[thickmick]

kurogane any one that would revoke his man card(if there wereone) is not a man!!

and I`ll take a wild guess you don`t like the boisterous yet thought provoking the "man show " with Jimmy kimmel .Gods greatest gift to TV.

To quote adam face " some people take these posts WAY to seriously "

[buds]

i don't want ANY women to be like the ones back home...

[imTony]

JR3,

I was just wondering. Because, if you spent a large protion of your life in another country (say... the US,) then in my mind you would be as much American as Japanese. But you say "not much," so nevermind.

Anyway, keep on enjoying yourself.

[Guy Ginpot]

she panderer/misogynist/pedophile/rapist...

pardon me. I do have trouble being concise, but these are some of the words that come to mind when I see 'pimp', which in itself is concise.

You seek to advise? How are you to be taken seriously with a tag that says: 'I am the scum of the earth."

Just what do you mean?

gg

[thickmick]

she primp , I get enough thankyou ,if I wanted a prossie it would only be for a cut of the wages ,and its not bad cash for just laying on your back and thinking of LV and prada bags .

Who sayd the other half dosent want it when they say no ,you know as well as I do that really mean YES ..

[kurogane]

I was half kidding, but the "just stick it in and shake it around even if she doesn't want it" bit is a little ugly. Anyway, maybe I did take it too seriously.

As for the Man Show, weel, I suppose testosterone laden peurility has its place, but I do find it gets tired quickly. Gots to love that Monkey Love episode; and Juggies on Trampolines.
;)
Can I have my Man Card back? Please

[Code Rot]

adamface said on 08-18-04:

"you shouldnt even ask... just nail her once she falls asleep."

I could twist your words around, and say "just nail her when you wake up."

Because due to the Morning Glory effect celebrated by bands such as Oasis, manhood is always at its peak at the exact moment you wake up. That's why, whenever I was with my old female friend, whenever I woke up I would always pull on a sheaf and begin ramming it home. She would always get angry because she was half asleep -- "what are you doing?" And I would say: "We have to take advantage of this hardness while it lasts!"

"She turned away, but with the autumn weather
Compelled my imagination many days,
Many days and many hours:
Her hair over her arms and her arms full of flowers.
And I wonder how they should have been together!
I should have lost a gesture and a pose.
Sometimes these cogitations still amaze
The troubled midnight and the noon's repose."

[kurogane]

After reading that, I wish to temporarily suspend my man card.

Thanks CR. You have assuaged all my doubts that I am not a sensitive male ;)

Do you at least giver her a kiss before?

[Welesley]

While they are "working" until 2 am? Please just think about it for a minute.

If you are married to a Japanese woman (I am) make friends with (more afluent is better) but Japanese men who are married and a little older than you and talk to them about what they do. (or who)

OR

change the location, it works wonders. Go to the onsen, a weekend trip abroad or somewhere different in Japan. All else fails go to the Love Hotel.

[Morning Star]

Welesley;
Your suggestions put bandaids on gaping marital wounds.
Lets say you find some affluent friends who love to go out and spend money. You do that every time you need some female attention and you'll soon be broke. So what if they pay for you? One or two times and they won't be inviting you out any more. Besides that, momimomi pubs just make you more たまってる.

Change the location: Works great in America, but what if your old lady is Japanese and pinching every penny in expectation of buying a new house and providing a life for the little halfers that she has/will pump out? "Let's save the onsen money... Let's not go abroad until we're retired... You want to take me to a Love Hotel??? What do you think I am, some kind of nankyouku nigou?" Now you've done it, you're definitely not getting any now.

Every time you want sex, show her the rikkon toruke and tell her to plant her hankou right in the maru. You got married for several reasons, and being denied sex wasn't one of them.

[kurogane]

Nankyoku Ningyou? Is that a Dutch Wife? Thanks for that. Kurogane thinks Good.

[Morning Star]

Thanks, I try to only remember the filthiest Japanese that I'm taught. I learned it as nankyoku nigou - the Antarctic #2, and there is a delightful story to go along with it. Ask your filthy senseis and they'll be happy to regale you with the one about the man that was stranded at the South Pole for an extended period of time. Consequentially, I call my body-pillow "nigou-chan."

[kurogane]

Sometimes you can be a git, but you make me laugh. Kurogahne Happy.

I was always accused of treating the "ex" like a "Dutch Wife" (a sex doll), which is what the Antarctic researchers carry with them on their trips.

[Morning Star]

Funny, I was also accused of treating the ex like a Dutch wife, it must be standard ammunition when they aren't feeling amorous. I pray to God that nobody on these boards knows who I am.

[kurogane]

I'm with ya on that one, Big guy. I think the convenience of those standard accusations is their big attraction. 10 years later I still get asked if I have a new Dutch Wife by her and her friends. I think they are mostly joking, but even so.... 10 years after (name their chart topping hit for a free Pocky!!!!)