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    Is casual sex possible? I mean truly mutualy satisfing sex. It seems like someone always gets weird and gets hurt. Every girl I've slept with casualy that was all cool before we got together - later changed her mind and wanted to get 'serious', either directly or indirectly. I could see it in her eyes. Is casual sex a fanatasy? Any ideas? -J

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    Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

    Of course it's possible...all you need to do is pay the girl =)

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    • #3
      Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

      I hear growling somewhere, woof, woof! Anyway, it's definitely possible if she has another/ multiple boyfriends... otherwise, if your consistently hooking up then someone's probably going to start getting emotionally involve after the first few times you're together. I think if you've got more than one girlfriend and she knoes it, chances are she won't want to get serious w/ you, but may still be attacted enough to date you... most likely through she'll leave, or leave and come back expecting you to drop anyone else.

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      • #4
        Re: Casual shopping - impossible?

        Is it possible to just do a little 'boutique' shopping without the store manager's imploring you to become the shop's European-buyer and offering an embarrassingly large salary? This happens to me all the time, and it's starting to get me down.

        [Can I trust that the foregoing has left no-one in any doubt that I'm a terrific dresser?].

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        • #5
          Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

          I think everyone goes into everything in their lives with certain expectations, and if two people have similar expectations, then such a situation could work. The key would be to communicate, and to create an atmosphere where communication was possible and comfortable. But sometimes people really dont know what they want, and lots of girls seem to get stuck in the "Oh, i can change him." kind of thinking.... and thats the point where things start to go wrong.

          If you want the same things, it will work.

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          • #6
            Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

            I guess what I'm hedging at is the big question:
            Are we meant to have casual sex? Is there some kind of built-in incompatability to it at a deaper level? It just shows up in chicks first? -J

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            • #7
              Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

              Of course it's possible, like Rutsu said pay her. Or be real honest from the begining, I bet you did not say to those girls that -all you want to to have is just good casual sex, that is all. (no love hate, or any other emotional attached). Mean what you say after that ,make sure you only have CASUAL SEX and don't waste your time involve in other activities like chatting or dinning. AND No listening to personal matters/ life/ histories etc.

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              • #8
                Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                Well thats one way to do it, and if sex is all you want then go for it, but how about this: would you be interested in having a relationship with someone who did not prevent you from having relationships with others? How about a relationship thats not exclusive? How about enjoying the other person as a whole instead of only their er, privates? Is that still casual sex? Or is that different?

                How is chatting and dining a waste of time? Isnt part of the fun of catching a boy/girl for the evening actually sleeping with them? And the idea of denying access to or the sharing personal information makes me think you may as well just invest in a rubber girl and be done with it.... What are you getting out of your casual sex exactly, are you just donating sperm and getting an orgasm with someone else present in the room for a change? You could get so much more out of it! Interaction with another human being in a sexual context, without having to promise to do it forever, for example.

                No criticism intended, but freesagi, you could get a lot more out of it....

                But you gotta remember, girls arent encouraged to do this kind of thing generally. If you have a daughter, will you encourage her to have the kind of sex you want right now??

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                • #9
                  Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                  You guys are going to hate me for this BUT...

                  JJ, the reason you're "hedging at the big question" is because your conscience is speaking to you. No, we are not meant to have casual sex. We are meant to either be celibate or get married and be faithful to that one person for life. That's how human beings are made and there's no getting out of it, however we try.

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                  • #10
                    Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                    Maybe women, not men. This denizen of Springfield is of the opinion that men are biologically hard wired to spray their seed far and wide to ensure continuance of humanity.

                    We try to "deny the funk" all the time but our sausagely impulses override sensible logic... AND TAKE COMMAND.

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                    • #11
                      Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                      ah jotty the voice of reason in this thread...of course girls can have casual sex. You just gotta be in the right frame of mind.

                      and after a few tequila sunrises I've often found it to be the case....

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                      • #12
                        Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                        Quote by Jotty: (1)
                        would you be interested in having a relationship with someone who did not prevent you from having relationships with others? How about a relationship thats not exclusive? How about enjoying the other person as a whole instead of only their er, privates

                        Quote from JJ 2)
                        I've slept with casualy that was all cool before we got together - later changed her mind and wanted to get 'serious', either directly or indirectly..

                        The problem is the stories always go this way like above from (1) to (2), that is why I suggested the first post, in this case no emotional and betrayal involved.

                        Secondly, I wouldn't encourage my daughter to have casual sex (if I ever have one in future). But I would encourage her to have clean, safe and fun sex.

                        Thirdly I want to say Love and Sex are 2 diffrent things.

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                        • #13
                          Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                          Freesagi: Well, no, the story doesnt always go that way. It doesnt always happen that it goes from "Yeah, sure, casual is fine" to "You know, id really like to see more of you".

                          In the original post, as you pointed out, ".... was all cool before we got together..." which i take to mean; `She was cool with the idea of casual sex until we actually had sex, and then she wanted to turn it into a relationship` . Yep, that happens a lot. Shes promising one thing but she wants another thing. She thinks hes offering one thing but secretly wants another thing. And honestly guys, how many of your initially casual relationships have turned into something more serious? You cant blame a girl for trying. Or a boy either...

                          But honestly, back to the daughter thing, so many people are so hypocritical about how they socialise their kids: yeah, its ok for the boys to be out all night screwing around, but not for the girls. So who`s daughters are the boys out there screwing? Yeah, you want women who can accept and deal with casual relationships for your own fun, but you arent going to let your daughters go out and do that when they get to their mid-teens cos you know what `dogs` men are and you want to protect them from that for their own safety... and so yet another generation of women grows up thinking its a bad idea to have casual sex, yet thats all the boys seem to be offering, and the girls dont want to be thought of as a prude..... And you wonder why women get confused about this?????

                          The prostitute idea, well yeah, thats not a bad option, especially if you are married.... Keep it to a transaction. Good example of a whole range of women who have no problems keeping the casual separate from the faithful, so you can see its not biological.....which leads me to...

                          Freeworld: Sorry, but id like to see evidence for your assertion that we are meant to be faithful or celibate. Show me the gene(s) that determines this. Very few animal species mate for life, and just because religion advocates it doesnt make it true.


                          Without wanting to get too personal, im having no problems keeping the mid- to long term casual thing going, the boys seem cool with it too, and Mr Tony Wang, YOU are the Asian PRINCE! (Half Moon Club again this Wed????)

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                          • #14
                            Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                            Actually, JJ, why did you start this thread? Its an interesting topic, but I suspect from other threads that you are not currently free to engage in casual sex.....?

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                            • #15
                              Re: happy casual sex - impossible?

                              Your mind says no but your nuts say go. The next morning she looks like a bad hangover.
                              Time to move on chaps

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