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Sorry for causing confusion nezer. If you haven't seen the movie Groundhog Day, it's about a day that keeps repeating itself. Your post sounded like Round II of Chairo vs Bongo (see the thread "Are Japanese women colour blind?"). In no way was I implying that you were a groundhog, just trying to make a joke about the same topic coming up. Sorry again for that. All the best in finding your man.
Just ignore those guys, Nezer. Apparently any posts involving black people and Japanese people and romance are identical (you know 'they all look the same to me' and all), and that there is a weekly limit on these posts.
If you want to talk about why Japanese women are great, or why they suck, or why foreign (white) women suck, then fire away! This is the place. But nobody wants to hear about black people...
Anyway, I'm afraid I can't help you much (Westsan probably can't either, since he's a black MAN). I've seen very very few Japanese male/black female couples here. But that is likely due to the fact that there are very few black females here.
There was a woman on this board asking a similar question a few months back, but I'm not sure what the conclusion was. I don't think there is a search function but you can eventually find the thread by checking the older posts.
I once worked with a black woman from the US at an english school in tokyo. this was many years ago, just before the current 'hip-hop' boom. (only mentioned as this has in part shaped the image of black people among the Japanese recently) anyway, she was a very attractive young woman but used to tell me how she never got approached/asked out by Japanese guys (except for the occasional dirty old man) though she always got hit on back home (and in Roppongi).
Our observations were that while many Japanese guys found her attractive, (some guys would tell me about it) they were generally too intimidated/nervous to approach her. That plus most can't speak English very well in the first place.
So, nezer, if you are to come to Japan you are likely going to have difficulties finding confident (never mind good-looking, I'll let the ladies handle that issue) Japanese men to socialize with. This is true for all non-Japanese women but might be more so for black women. If you are into the club scene, that is one possibility (at the very least you will find Japanese people there are relatively more open to socializing with black people). Otherwise prepare yourself for the long haul!
Man... the gerbil got my tounge again. Yes, men like women, some of those who don`t, might turn into women.
I also agree with swordfish`s observation, depending on how/what kinda fun you want in Japan, I got to know one black Jamaican lady about 1 month+ back, she was having a good time (mainly cause she knows what she wants too I guess, and having met a cool ladyfriend herself to accompany her during outings surely helps). I did not get to meet her friend though. And oh yes, it will depend on what kinda job you will be doing here (my friend was a bartender).
I dont want any one to think that I plan on hoeing around but I would like to have a relationship. I am studing nursing and do plan on being social. thanks for the input. I think im starting to get the main idea. More feed back would still be great though.
*grin* Not much advice. Approach with care. Have in mind what kind of person you want to go out with. Scratch a wild-looking Japanese guy and find a traditionalist underneath. Scratch a traditionalist and ... well, he remains a traditionalist. The happy medium is most difficult of all, I hear. I've met a few strange ones, some very nice-seeming.
By the way, I have twenty-nine gerbils, hence the name gerbilcat. And of course three cats, which is a different subject. People interested in having gerbils out there? I have spare. But only GOOD people, mind you.