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    After reading William of Lemon's excellent thread on keeping kids bilingual, I've been thinking about the language we use in our relationship. With my Japanese wife, we use both English and Japanese. Usually it's Japanese for the easy stuff and shortmails, like "I'll be home soon". But when we need to express our feelings, we use English. I've tried to use Japanese, but it has often lead to misunderstandings. My wife prefers that I use English for anything serious.

    I wonder if English is easier to use in J-W relationships? Do you say "I love you" to your partner, or "ai____eru"?


  • #2
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    English is much more romantic than Japanese don`t you know?

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    • #3
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      English for sex, Japanese for emotions, gibberish in the morning

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      • #4
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        I have the same thoughts sometimes about that... sometimes I think it`s stressful, especially if one person is fluent in both languages, and the other is only fluent in one. Translating everything can get stressful and sometimes annoying. It`s sad but true.

        Also if we have a misunderstanding, sometimes it takes twice as long to talk it out, and it leaves both of us very grumpy for the rest of the day....

        And then you got the conflict of emotional vs. hiding emotions... it`s very hard for me to be sensitive to a Japanese person`s moods when they barely ever show anything!



        Post Edited (07-02-04 18:03)

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        • #5
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          Blues,

          Isnt that becasue there are no really good, sexy/dirty words in Japanese (OR, not that we know of)?

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          • #6
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            No dirty words in Japanese?
            I could have sworn that some of the words that I knew were considered dirty.

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            • #7
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              That is becasue you are a dirty dirty boy.
              Now go and wash your mouth out with soap.



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              • #8
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                Bah! Hypocrite!

                "Divide by two and SUBTRACT seven." <----- You remember this, eh?

                You are a dirty old man.

                : )

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                • #9
                  Re: which language for love?

                  The truth is no libel.
                  Currently, however, the formula is undergoing revision:

                  either divide by three and add seven, or divide by two and add a day.

                  Born again, at the Fountain of Her Youth

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                  • #10
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                    language for love?
                    you mean we're supposed to talk to them?

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                    • #11
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                      Only dirty stuff, whilst exchanging precious bodily fluids

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                      • #12
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                        What are you guys talking about? Japanese is a great language for love and even better for sex!

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                        • #13
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                          Agreed, Japanese can be a great language for expressing delicate and detailed emotional states with astounding economy.

                          As for the sex bit, do you think that maybe it is because you find the use of an Exotic Language somehow makes the whole thing more exciting (analogous to why many Japanese women prefer to use English during sex)?

                          Just a thought.

                          Is it this topic, or am I feeling hot from the weather?

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                          • #14
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                            No, I don't think it is that Japanese is exotic to me. I think it's just the kind of language that gets used. Formal and casual Japanese can be pretty hot. All the 'sasete' (let me...) can be really hot, too. It's grrrrrrrrreat!

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                            • #15
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                              orochi,

                              So did the snack club girl "let you"?

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