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    Let us suppose that you do something you think your partner would disapprove of, e.g. you spash out on that expensive Pioneer car I.C.E. system you have been eyeing up. Your partner finds out and gives you a hard time and explains that you are not to make expensive purchases again without consulting him/her. You are contrite and apologise and think it is the end of the matter.

    Months later, you find out that your partner has bought some expensive clothes (even more so than your cherished I.C.E.!), so you challenge them.


    You say somehting like:

    "Those clothes look lovely on you, but seriously how much? I though we would agree to consult each other before making expensive purchases, just as you had earlier insisted."

    Partner: "It is different."

    You: "How so?"

    Partner: "Can you not see that? Even if you can not, I do not care anyway!"

    You: ...


    In this situation your partner has simply dismissed you and shut down the argument by implying that you are an idiot. Not only that, but because you do not understand you are an idiot it makes you an even bigger idiot. Refusing to explain prevents you from engaging in any rational argument (which is clearly the purpose) and from this point the argument just degenerates into insults.

    What is a good comeback to this kind of stonewalling?

  • #2
    LMAO I recognize this.

    Just say "You are right, Im sorry" and forget about it. Its a waste of time otherwise.

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    • #3
      Just tell her she always looks fat.

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      • #4
        Buy an expensive divorce

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Uncompletist View Post
          Buy an expensive divorce


          roflmao. All three above responses are correct. haha

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          • #6
            Ask her if she can cough...then tell her to fcuk off. No place in any relationship for stupid mind games; hers or yours.

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            • #7
              Buy an ocelot.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Hijinx View Post
                Buy an ocelot.
                Yup, it's easy to titillate an ocelot. You just oscillate it's t!t a lot.

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                • #9
                  I'd just say 'I don't see how it's different, and whether that makes me an idiot or not is irrelevant, as I don't see how it's different. So please explain it me'.

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                  • #10
                    Money wasn't the issue. It was more that I felt that the (now ex) had double standards (in other words, laying down rules for 'us' that she herself never intended to observe). She spoke like a true politician!

                    Originally posted by LD2
                    "If you don't understand.... then you are an even bigger idiot" doesn't bode well. If you honestly can't understand her reasoning and ask her for clarification which she doesn't give, it just sounds like she is attempting to delay an explanation as long as possible to milk out numerous purchases until you finally call her on it."
                    I think it was just her attempting to 'put me in my place', as she saw it. A p!ssing contest in other words. The fact that I couldn't think of a biting retort and my only recourse was to promptly go and kick the neighbour's cat makes me think she was winning.

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                    • #11
                      Better yet, toss the dress in the trash and go through her purse and take her cards. Do this in front of her and be prepared for some banshee level screaming. My ex did that the year we were going to go to Spain for our vacation. She used 1/4 of the money earmarked for the trip for clothes. No trip and no clothes.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by pjb View Post
                        You say somehting like:

                        "Those clothes look lovely on you, but seriously how much? I though we would agree to consult each other before making expensive purchases, just as you had earlier insisted."

                        Partner: "It is different."

                        You: "How so?"

                        Partner: "Can you not see that? Even if you can not, I do not care anyway!"

                        You: ...
                        I totally understand what she is talking about.
                        It goes like this- "I am a woman. I am allowed to tell you what to do with money AND I am allowed to make judgements for myself about the way I use money. You are a man. You are to obey those rules and NOT apply similar rules to me for any reason. This is the way of things."

                        Can you not see that?

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by edin日本 View Post
                          Better yet, toss the dress in the trash and go through her purse and take her cards. Do this in front of her and be prepared for some banshee level screaming. My ex did that the year we were going to go to Spain for our vacation. She used 1/4 of the money earmarked for the trip for clothes. No trip and no clothes.
                          Ha. You should have told her it was a beach holiday. No need for clothes then!

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                          • #14
                            I do not why you guys put up with that crap! On our wedding day I told the soon to be wife that we would have an account for household expenses and the children needs, but I would maintain a separate account for my money and she would have a separate account for her money. That agreement was made 27 years ago and we have never fought over how we spend our money. She tried the old "Japanese husbands give all their money to their wives to handle" and I told her "I am not a Japanese husband" and that was the last time I heard that! I can buy whatever my heart desires with my money and she does not complain and vice versa!

                            However, some women have to try being the one who wears the pants and there is a simple solution, but all the namby pamby posters around here, will come out in droves, if I was to tell you all about it! Suffice to say: All you fairies, having problems with your wives or partners need to grown up and get some balls

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by The Postman
                              providing that is, that your heart only desires what is affordable on your very small take home salary! good thing your heart never seems to desire much more than a six pack of chu-hi and the occasional treat of some conbini porn.
                              Spoken like a true dumb t wa t, who doesn't know his arsehole from a hole in the ground! I do not drink chu-hi and for sure hate combini porn! You one of those namby-pamby posters I mentioned?

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