Then the son schools the mom more than his whole, socially-inept, karoushi-driven father ever could..!
Don't ask me how I know all this.....
Why do so many people exploit Facebook in such inane ways?
How old is this woman? How often are you servicing her? Who initiated this? I guess your wife wasn't putting out and your needs got the better of you? I'm not judging, but the question is how to manage now?
My advice: keep things going along smoothly and think of your kids; they are innocent victims of two horny adults and need to be protected from the fallout of your actions.
Get into the Japanese groove man, read Apogee's posts! ;-) (I'm only half joking!) Yes, I know you're in one now, I mean the other one. This is just a bodily function in Japan. "Strangers begin at home" as their old saying goes. These people are close to nature. You're making two women happy not one. Think of it as an act of charity, but not too much! Yes, you should feel guilty, but now you have to do damage control in my opinion. Ever wonder why your MIL doesn't seem to feel guilty? Does that tell you something about how sex is perceived? We've all heard of the mothers servicing their sons so they can "concentrate on their studies". No, it's not just a stupid AV plot, it's an example of a different attitude to sexual matters. Very hard for Westerners to get their heads around but you're living it. How much do we really know of what goes on in such a different society? One that sees what it wants to see and tells only what it wants to tell?
She's been wanting this for a long time. Now, does that mean some gaijin could have picked her up on the street? I doubt it. She feels comfortable with you because you're in the family. Look, if her life has been like a lot of Japanese mothers, she deserves a bit of lovin' IMO. She probably does an awful lot for you and your wife and kids. If this makes her happy, then I say give it to her and hard. She will be eternally grateful as Ben Franklin said!
Anyway, you know what kind of people you're dealing with, we don't, unless you give us some more ideas.
Things may change in the future, you and your wife may move away, MIL may have a stroke tomorrow, you just never know.
You could talk to her and explain how you feel and see if you can work it out with her, but I'm guessing you made the first move and so she's going to be pissed if you pull out now - pun intended, she can't help but be, she's tasted the forbidden fruit, which she may never have had in her whole life. Whether her "pissed-offedness" will extend to telling your wife or just making life difficult for you from hereon out is hard to tell. Your call, but remember the furies! She could easily screw things up for you by making up stories about you and telling your wife, even if she doesn't tell her about the sex. She'll guess you won't be the one to tell your wife no matter what she does, and there's the kids holding you as well.
Look, the time is going to come when she may lose interest or you will and this may just die a natural death so to speak. You gain nothing from backing out now except trying to make yourself feel better at everyone else's expense. Forget it! And enjoy the guilty pleasure, because the guilt lasts longer than the pleasure anyway. And when it's over you can look back and at least know you made her happy for a few years, a woman who probably stayed with her drunk husband for the sake of her kid(s) and sublimated all her needs for them.
The least hurt is for you to just absorb the guilt as the price you have to pay for taking this on and try to get your head turned around so that it doesn't mess you up. If your wife is going to focus on the kids and forget you for a few years, you may be very glad of your MIL's attentions, at least physically. Try to shed the guilt for now. You've got the rest of your life to deal with that and time does heal. Just let it stoke your male fires for now.
If you're making her happy, you can use that and you probably should use that to extend your dominance discreetly.
If you can find another gaijin to pass her off to, then that's another way out. Hell, she might even like him better and when he's gone you can find her another!
Or you could try putting something in her food to reduce her desire I suppose!
Hope that helps and DON'T RUN AWAY!
Last edited by Wavey Man; 2011-06-16 at 05:20 AM.
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Dude, you and your mother-in-law are so dirty. How can you look to your kids and wife?! I'm not a conservative christian , neither christian or linked to any kind of religion, but I'm sorry, this is really out of reality.
My sugestion is: Commit suicide, you and you mother-in-law(she don't deserve to be called mother)
Now I would like to know how it would be if you discover that your wife is cheating you with your father?!
Normal? No. Mad props for his awesome game if he managed to pull it off, though.This is just to dirt for anyone with maturity.
Imagine your father ____ing your wife, is that normal for you?
Maybe for you guys, it is, but not for me.
I don't understand your line of reasoning. Are you also grossed out by thoughts of having sex with your wife's sister? How about a 3some with your wife and her sister together?
Hold on ... epiphany coming ... ARE YOU AN ACTUAL FEMALE ON THE INTERNET?