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    Default Reprimanding train passengers.

    ...I tend not to do it as much as I should because I feel that as a foreigner I may be seen as a gaijin ahole telling the Jfolk how they should behave. Plus my Japanese isn't really up to

    "Hey...mother and sproglets, I know you've had a hard day shopping but how about getting off the special seats for the 89 year old dude over there?"

    At home it would be about 1 word and then a time of compliance of about 7 seconds and then the old dude would have a seat whether or not he wanted it.
    Because..ya know? You should stand up for the aged.

    So, what would be the best way to go about that?

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    Why thank you youngster, however that mom and those sprogs have just as much rights to those special seats as us oldsters do. If you read the sticker in the window it explains it. And some of the jiji`s and oba`s tend to fake their need to sit down. Have you ever really watched some of them, some of them have got goddamn talent, I`m telling you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BackDoor_Man View Post
    Why thank you youngster, however that mom and those sprogs have just as much rights to those special seats as us oldsters do. If you read the sticker in the window it explains it. And some of the jiji`s and oba`s tend to fake their need to sit down. Have you ever really watched some of them, some of them have got goddamn talent, I`m telling you.
    Yeah I know...if they are little kids and all but these were a mom around 38 and 2 quite able boys aged around 7 and 9 (sitting, eating candy) and the dude was at least 80.
    I feel bad now... I should have moved them. then, that's the problem.. a white guy getting 2 Jkids to move for an ancient Jguy....
    For real the ancient dude could have used a seat more than them but a whitey moving them for him...hmmmm.
    They should have just fkn moved of their own accord (They were in the old/preg/disabled seats. No right to be there when Oji is standing.)
    And it shouldn't be up to me at at all right? I would not expect a Japanese worker in my own country to take charge of rude people.
    I wouldn't resent but I imagine many would.

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    I have to agree with backdoor on this. A lot of those olds are a lot tougher and sterdier than the younger generation.

    However I do understand how you feel. I have a broken leg at the moment and getting around on crutches is hard but nobody on the train gives a shit. To make things easier for myself I use the bus as much as I can. Nobody says anything when you go to the front of the line when you're on crutches.

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    I try to lead by example, and make a point of giving up my seat to old folks. That said, I've also made teenagers get out of the priority seats when there are seniors standing around without a seat (and I don't have one either). They don't like it, but they still move.
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    Don't get angry at them. Go up to them and whisper, so that the old man doesn't realise, politely asking them to give one of their seats away.

    I have done that a few times with success - for pregnant women with 'Baby in me' badges, too.
    Come as you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twelvedown View Post
    Yeah I know...if they are little kids and all but these were a mom around 38 and 2 quite able boys aged around 7 and 9 (sitting, eating candy) and the dude was at least 80.
    I feel bad now... I should have moved them. then, that's the problem.. a white guy getting 2 Jkids to move for an ancient Jguy....
    For real the ancient dude could have used a seat more than them but a whitey moving them for him...hmmmm.
    They should have just fkn moved of their own accord (They were in the old/preg/disabled seats. No right to be there when Oji is standing.)
    And it shouldn't be up to me at at all right? I would not expect a Japanese worker in my own country to take charge of rude people.
    I wouldn't resent but I imagine many would.
    You could've swept the geezer off his feet and cradled him in your arms if you were that concerned for his comfort. Or hoisted him onto the overhead rack for a lie-down. That's what I do because I have genuine compassion for those old farts. You, on the other hand, merely feign indignation at Japanese train-riding culture when in fact what you're really lamenting is how YOU get treated in this country and how impotent you are to do anything about it despite obviously being such a noble breed. Today's lesson:'Priority seats and how the Japanese are regrettably inferior to me, example # 1,718.' I'm sure Hijinx or some other like-minded c*nt will chip in a few examples of his own and then you'll have your whinge party. That's all you really want and coincidentally all you're capable of...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andun View Post
    I have to agree with backdoor on this. A lot of those olds are a lot tougher and sterdier than the younger generation.

    However I do understand how you feel. I have a broken leg at the moment and getting around on crutches is hard but nobody on the train gives a shit. To make things easier for myself I use the bus as much as I can. Nobody says anything when you go to the front of the line when you're on crutches.
    Crutches should be banned on trains, especially during peak hours. Why do others have to be inconvenienced because some ski bum falls off a mountain? If your presence is so desperately needed somewhere at 8 AM learn to crawl, babe.

    And any arsehole can cut in line in this country - I do it all the time without the aid of crutches.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Effected After View Post
    I try to lead by example, and make a point of giving up my seat to old folks. That said, I've also made teenagers get out of the priority seats when there are seniors standing around without a seat (and I don't have one either). They don't like it, but they still move.
    Wow, give this man a Subway hero sandwich! You're twice the man twelvedown could ever be, I think you've made that crystal clear. Was that the idea? I find a lot of self-admiration in your posts which is somewhat disturbing because you're, uh, very weird.

    Quick example - when somebody pointed out (yesterday, I think) that you act like Glenn Close whenever KB posts you were quick to point out that on those rare occasions when KB actually says something that you deem acceptable you're not afraid to agree with him. And then lo and behold a few posts later there you are agreeing with KB for no other reason than to demonstrate what a fair-minded guy you really are...Sick stuff although I doubt you're even aware of the lengths you go to prop yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    Don't get angry at them. Go up to them and whisper, so that the old man doesn't realise, politely asking them to give one of their seats away.

    I have done that a few times with success - for pregnant women with 'Baby in me' badges, too.
    Psss, I disagree. How will you get any gratitude if the old man doesn't know you went to bat for him? I don't know about you but posting about it to my peers on Gaijinpot isn't enough for me. Whenever I police the priority seats, I loudly check IDs and the bellies of those 'baby in me' women to make sure the fetus is still breathing or even exists. Some girls try to fool us gaijin by pretending to be pregnant. Not on my watch!

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    When I'm in the special seats, I have a good look at the icon with the big belly...then I look at my own belly...then I go to sleep...



    Got to get your priorities right!

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    seriously why dont you guys mind your own businesses?


    typical rude gaijins


    wind your knecks in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Piethrower View Post
    Psss, I disagree. How will you get any gratitude if the old man doesn't know you went to bat for him? I don't know about you but posting about it to my peers on Gaijinpot isn't enough for me. Whenever I police the priority seats, I loudly check IDs and the bellies of those 'baby in me' women to make sure the fetus is still breathing or even exists. Some girls try to fool us gaijin by pretending to be pregnant. Not on my watch!
    It's not about receiving gratitude. It's a method that I have known to work. If the old man knew about it, he would most definitely refuse the seat, even though he really needs to sit down. It's a cultural thing.
    Come as you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    It's not about receiving gratitude. It's a method that I have known to work. If the old man knew about it, he would most definitely refuse the seat, even though he really needs to sit down. It's a cultural thing.
    which you clearly don't get given that your behaviour would have embarrassed and disturbed everyone including the old man. he would have rather stood in peace and be left alone he didnt want some stranger making fuss unasked on his behalf because them he will have to react, would have to thank you (the correct amount) would worry if you understood his japanese --oh i can almost here his stress levels increasing!

    if you really understood japanese culture you would leave people in peace
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    Quote Originally Posted by thefg View Post
    seriously why dont you guys mind your own businesses?


    typical rude gaijins


    wind your knecks in.
    sometimes it is just too easy to "mind you own business". I believe in making the world a better place.
    Come as you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thefg View Post
    which you clearly don't get given that your behaviour would have embarrassed and disturbed everyone including the old man
    You don't get it?

    1. The old man is best not to know.

    2. The people sitting down NEED to know and need to be aware of the people around them sometimes. If they feel embarrassed, good. Hopefully they'll remember their embarrassment and look out for others next time.
    Come as you are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    You don't get it?

    1. The old man is best not to know.

    2. The people sitting down NEED to know and need to be aware of the people around them sometimes. If they feel embarrassed, good. Hopefully they'll remember their embarrassment and look out for others next time.
    and who the f_ck gave you the right to go around disturbing peoples peace? Who asked you to stick your nose in anyones afair


    In my book someone who is sat on a reserved seat is being rude

    but

    someone who is verbally attack strangers for any reason is JUST as rude


    bugger off with your sanctimonious rubbish

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    sometimes it is just too easy to "mind you own business". I believe in making the world a better place.
    who the f_ck are you? Jesus?

    you can make it a better place ...by minding your own business

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    sometimes it is just too easy to "mind you own business". I believe in making the world a better place.


    Well-intentioned sentiments for sure, but the other argument coming out here is that your 'better world' of gaijin right things to do, might not be the 'better world' of those native Japanese on the receiving end of a gaijin's unwanted cross-cultural interference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    Don't get angry at them. Go up to them and whisper, so that the old man doesn't realise, politely asking them to give one of their seats away.


    I have done that a few times with success - for pregnant women with 'Baby in me' badges, too.
    You are a good guy.
    Ja. that is really the right thing to do.

    And that is what should be done. The way people learn to behave well (or poorly) is through the examples of others.
    I have picked up plenty of things about how to be a nice person from other people well after I became an adult. Plenty of things from Japanese people.

    As for piethrowa .. what the fk? your boyfriend didn't give you the love today?

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    Quote Originally Posted by twelvedown View Post
    ... the right thing to do. ...

    IS to get up close and personal with the twerps - bending over to get within inches from their faces, making them think that you are about to eat their noses, ears, or eyeballs. And then back off an inch or two, and glance at the old biddy or geezer, and once again - get real close to the twerps, and then repeat the glance at the seniors, and finally give the imbecile mother a dirty look of disdain - and then see if the seat is given up, or if their station just happens to be the next stop.

    And if that doesn't work - generate a coughing fit - mouth uncovered directed at the imbecile of a mother. A not so fine spray of spit might help seal the deal.

    (The wine is good tonight....)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Piethrower View Post
    Wow, give this man a Subway hero sandwich! You're twice the man twelvedown could ever be, I think you've made that crystal clear. Was that the idea? I find a lot of self-admiration in your posts which is somewhat disturbing because you're, uh, very weird.
    It is what it is. If it makes me a hero, then I'm a hero. If it makes me weird, it makes me weird. I think it's a combination of the both.

    Quote Originally Posted by Piethrower View Post
    Quick example - when somebody pointed out (yesterday, I think) that you act like Glenn Close whenever KB posts you were quick to point out that on those rare occasions when KB actually says something that you deem acceptable you're not afraid to agree with him. And then lo and behold a few posts later there you are agreeing with KB for no other reason than to demonstrate what a fair-minded guy you really are
    So to get this straight, you are saying that because I had acknowledged that I am willing to agree with KB when he is right on something, I should have purposefully not agreed with him the next time he said something I agree with? That's way too many head games for me. You are better at those than I.

    Anyways, we've met in person. You know yourself how much of a misfit I come across as or not. If you think I am, well there you have it - I am. It doesn't really bother me though. I stopped evaluating myself through others' opinions of me when I was still going through puberty. If you set the bar at 'what everyone else is doing', then you never do anything different or more than anyone else. I'd rather do my own thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thefg View Post
    which you clearly don't get given that your behaviour would have embarrassed and disturbed everyone including the old man. he would have rather stood in peace and be left alone he didnt want some stranger making fuss unasked on his behalf because them he will have to react, would have to thank you (the correct amount) would worry if you understood his japanese --oh i can almost here his stress levels increasing!

    if you really understood japanese culture you would leave people in peace
    maybe you should think about that... and I am certainly not saying "think again", because you obviously never did.

    Some of us have a different understanding of the meaning of the word "culture", and it does not include behaviour like that. I would agree that it is not our job to wake up these retarded cowards, but sometimes it just feels to be the right thing to do.
    You see, my experience is totally different. I have gotten into the habit of pointing out to japanese when they behave like assholes, and in almost every single instance I get only positive feedback from the japanese around me, not just in trains.
    If the japanese want to cling to their mixture of stupidity, cowardliness and hang on to what they call culture and tradition in this third world country... fine with me.
    However, on some days less so, than on others...

    "twelvedown"... your questions simply shoes intelligence, as it is not really obvious how to behave, and you can see at some of the ridculous answers here. When for the first time I thought about that question myself, I came to two conclusions. I do not like moronic behavior in idiots, if in Tokyo or New York, but on the other hand, I can not change Japan, those people are so unbelievably stuck in their miserable little habits, they do not deserve any better life than what they have. So, if it feels to you in that moment... go for it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by twelvedown View Post

    So, what would be the best way to go about that?
    On the other hand, you could be like me and just not give a damn.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Since1990 View Post
    sometimes it is just too easy to "mind you own business". I believe in making the world a better place.
    Who died and made you savior of the JR?
    making the world a better place isn't about telling other people what they should do.
    It's about doing the right thing yourself.

    If you told me to give up my seat for someone, or try that stare-down or coughing fit B.S,
    I'll punch you in your goddamned smug grandiose face.
    Especially if you were a Gaijin like me.

    And the best part is, no one on the train would really give a $hit.
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    Am I the only one to wonder why 12&under didn't offer said 80 year old his own damn seat????




































    PS no Sooper Pooper points for guessing why he didn't.

    At least he got Piethrower chucking it again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by John Grey View Post
    "twelvedown"... your questions simply shoes intelligence,
    Does it come in 30 cm?
    I really need to find an intelligent 30 cm shoe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by John Grey View Post
    "twelvedown"... your questions simply shoes intelligence
    Quote Originally Posted by YokohamaTommy View Post
    Does it come in 30 cm?
    I really need to find an intelligent 30 cm shoe.
    I see your answer because make disinjeansyouus.

    Obvious is to mean that 12&Under questions is "socks intelligence", and if of extremis, also "pants intelligence".

    Because all but idiot know that intelligence can not be shoed, or shoo'ed, or eschewed.

    This is fuct.


    Quote Originally Posted by John Grey View Post
    and you can see at some of the ridculous answers here.
    And now we are know that many is one, and the true response is make.








    PS if you don't mind dumb shoes, most larger work wear shops will carry something in a 30.


    Like these groovers: https://www.toraichi-shop.com/produc...?product_id=17

    But if you actually care about looking like a human, go to the outlet malls near any of the Kanto area bases.

    My intelligence is also 29.5 cms, and I am of feel for your pine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kurogane View Post

    PS if you don't mind dumb shoes, most larger work wear shops will carry something in a 30.
    Indeed, I've seen those at my local Home Shop.
    Not really my cup of tea.

    Quote Originally Posted by kurogane View Post
    But if you actually care about looking like a human, go to the outlet malls near any of the Kanto area bases.
    My intelligence is also 29.5 cms, and I am of feel for your pine.
    I'm slowly finding the big/tall dudes shop resources.
    BTW, are you drinking glue again?

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    Quote Originally Posted by kurogane View Post
    Am I the only one to wonder why 12&under didn't offer said 80 year old his own damn seat????



    Won't say anything bad about 12down. He's a good guy and his heart is in the right place.
    And of course it bugs me that often I see such injustices on the train. It bugs me like it bugs everyone else.
    But I'll be damned if I'm going to get up in anyone's grill about it. I pick my battles carefully, and playing JR Jesus ain't one of 'em.

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    "Reprimanding.."?

    Imagine the response a Japanese person would get if they turned up in America and started "reprimanding" people....

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    Quote Originally Posted by hennagaijin View Post
    "Reprimanding.."?

    Imagine the response a Japanese person would get if they turned up in America and started "reprimanding" people....

    A very wise way to approach the situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kurogane View Post
    I see your answer because make disinjeansyouus.

    Obvious is to mean that 12&Under questions is "socks intelligence", and if of extremis, also "pants intelligence".

    Because all but idiot know that intelligence can not be shoed, or shoo'ed, or eschewed.

    This is fuct.




    And now we are know that many is one, and the true response is make.








    PS if you don't mind dumb shoes, most larger work wear shops will carry something in a 30.


    Like these groovers: https://www.toraichi-shop.com/produc...?product_id=17

    But if you actually care about looking like a human, go to the outlet malls near any of the Kanto area bases.

    My intelligence is also 29.5 cms, and I am of feel for your pine.
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    From my experience, even giving up your own seat for the elderly only results in them being embarrassed.
    Strangely, heavily pregnant women seem grateful, which is good, because I'm damned if I want amniotic fluid all over my shoes.
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    I thought you were old enough for people to be giving you their seat on the train.
    I am financially motivated to whore myself out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deathblob View Post
    I thought you were old enough for people to be giving you their seat on the train.
    Can I help it, if I look 20 years younger than my age? (In my dreams)
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    I remember this one time, when I was super heavily pregnant and sitting down, and this old, old old woman gets on, all hunched over, and (I was in the priority seats) and after a lot of huffing, puffing and balancing I gave her my seat. Along with grunts and mutterings about how they were all so rude, and should care about the elderly.

    I just felt too bad for her... SHE WAS SO OLD!!! and everyone was pretending they didnt see her.

    That shamed/prompted 4 of the 5 other people (mainly salarypeople, and a youngish type woman) in the vicinity to jump up and offer their seats to me. That was a good day... nothing like being a martyr eh?

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    I'm sure some older folk are a little embarrassed when someone gives up a seat for the, but I don't think this is the norm. After giving up my seat, I usually go stand by the doors out of the way, reading my phone, and often if they are getting off on a stop before mine, they give me a little 'arigato' when they are getting off - even though I'm absorbed in my phone and don't even notice they are leaving.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ume View Post
    I remember this one time, when I was super heavily pregnant and sitting down

    Tell us more.
    What where you wearing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by YokohamaTommy View Post

    If you told me to give up my seat for someone, or try that stare-down or coughing fit B.S,
    I'll punch you in your goddamned smug grandiose face.
    Ok, maybe I wouldn't exactly punch you in your face.

    But I'd be fantasizing.
    Oh yes.
    I'd be fantasizing....

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