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Thread: Is "love" important in starting a relationship?

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    Default Is "love" important in starting a relationship?

    My theory is "NO"
    If two people meet and think that, if they both work at it, it will be good, then it will.
    Your thoughts?
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    Are you okay?

    Lot's of relationship questions today......

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    Quote Originally Posted by SometimesJustMe View Post
    Are you okay?

    Lot's of relationship questions today......
    Can't work. Just had shoulder reconstruction #2. Off my tits on opiates. Bored with "How do I get laid?" threads.
    Enough said?
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    Quote Originally Posted by SometimesJustMe View Post
    Are you okay?

    Lot's of relationship questions today......
    @ Oxymoron : Is this what you are feeling right now?? Me, personally, i don't think i can. I want to build relationships with the one i love. Well, maybe for after 10 years of marriage, i wouldn't see the love i felt as the same way. But it definitely took a lot of effort, copromise, trust, time, passion, honesty, bravery, will to build something like marriage and make it last forever..

    @ SometimesJustMe : is it probably his time of the month??
    Last edited by rievi; 2012-04-02 at 02:57 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rievi View Post
    @ Oxymoron : Is this what you are feeling right now?? Me, personally, i don't think i can. I want to build relationships with the one i love. Well, maybe for after 10 years of marriage, i wouldn't see the love i felt as the same way. But it definitely took a lot of effort, copromise, trust, time, passion, honesty, bravery, will to build something like marriage and make it last forever..

    @ SometimesJustMe : is it probably his time of the month??
    Excuse me while I throw up. Too much saccharine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by oxymoron View Post
    Excuse me while I throw up. Too much saccharine.
    It's just my opinion oxy. And anyway, can you throw up money like KB?? *joke
    Failing and giving up are two bitches of life, but they're not precisely related..

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    Quote Originally Posted by oxymoron View Post
    Can't work. Just had shoulder reconstruction #2. Off my tits on opiates. Bored with "How do I get laid?" threads.
    Enough said?
    In that case not only do I understand, but I hope you bring some of those opiates with you when you move here :-p

    My answer would be that "love" is an important stage of a lasting relationship, but it better be based on a sh!tload more than just love to last though. I've heard that scientifically speaking "love" is a feeling based on a hormone you produce that lasts at most, 3 years into a relationship.

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    I dunno. It's nice to be in love but you can have a good relationship without.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SometimesJustMe View Post
    In that case not only do I understand, but I hope you bring some of those opiates with you when you move here :-p

    My answer would be that "love" is an important stage of a lasting relationship, but it better be based on a sh!tload more than just love to last though. I've heard that scientifically speaking "love" is a feeling based on a hormone you produce that lasts at most, 3 years into a relationship.
    Will bring copious opiates. Yep, sooner or later things like trust, compatibility and feeling totally comfortable kick in.
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    Quote Originally Posted by twelvedown View Post
    I dunno. It's nice to be in love but you can have a good relationship without.
    Yep. just add lots of trust and respect. The rest will happen naturally.
    How good is my grammar while off my tits on opiates?
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    Quote Originally Posted by rievi View Post
    It's just my opinion oxy. And anyway, can you throw up money like KB?? *joke
    Yep. plenty of money to throw around. And in return.......?
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    Quote Originally Posted by oxymoron View Post
    Is "love" important in starting a relationship?
    it has been crucial in ending many a relationship ....
    ... and thanks to you well_bicyclically, you helped me a lot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oxymoron View Post
    Yep. plenty of money to throw around. And in return.......?
    I'm not quite the right person to answer this, but i guess there will be time when everyone's hard work is coming back to them and i'm sure this applies to KB too
    Failing and giving up are two bitches of life, but they're not precisely related..

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    Quote Originally Posted by well_bicyclically View Post
    it has been crucial in ending many a relationship ....
    Woo Hoo. You've just gone up in my estimates!
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    Quote Originally Posted by oxymoron View Post
    My theory is "NO"
    If two people meet and think that, if they both work at it, it will be good, then it will.
    Your thoughts?
    guess you really have nothing to do today or your contemplating opening a vein? lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by thefg View Post
    guess you really have nothing to do today or your contemplating opening a vein? lol
    Nah...The tabs work great.
    Want some?
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    Quote Originally Posted by oxymoron View Post
    Woo Hoo. You've just gone up in my estimates!


    I would like to cash out, please...
    ... and thanks to you well_bicyclically, you helped me a lot.

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    Love? Not so much. You will only hurt yourself.

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    What is love anyway? There is no concrete definition.
    Relationships start in any number of ways ― through lust, friendship or by arrangement. If a couple gets on well enough the relationship may well endure and a bond form. So my answer is no, because love is nothing but a vague concept that means different things to different people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andun View Post
    What is love anyway? There is no concrete definition.
    Relationships start in any number of ways ― through lust, friendship or by arrangement. If a couple gets on well enough the relationship may well endure and a bond form. So my answer is no, because love is nothing but a vague concept that means different things to different people.
    I think he's talking of LOVE. The one the poets speak of, that many confuse with desire & is most often unrequited. Some call is puppy love, some true love, some shout it from the rooftops, some call it a form of madness. No, it's not necessary in starting a relationship, but is it important to have ever felt it? To know that you're capable of it? It can't hurt. Well, obviously it can & does - more than anything.
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    At first, no. Usually lust or some other factor gets your attention. Then through interaction it slowly develops into love. Some may not admit it, though they're thinking it. It's just hard to say I love you sometimes.

    Be like "I.. cough* Lub.. you"
    impatience, clouds the mind

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