Tommy, think of love as a humming bird which hovers between you and your wife. Now I want you to make sweet, deep, passionate rodeo love to your wife. We'll wait...Originally Posted by YokohamaTommy
More tissues? Ok, at this moment the humming bird is sated and happily flutters amongst the flowers in your wife's honey-glazed hair. Marital bliss. I'm truly happy for you...But you must consider, Tommy, that a humming bird is always a mere few hours away from starving to death. And hasn't your wife been hinting that she wants a kitten?
Do you know how hard it's gonna be to keep that bird alive, Tommy? Do you have any f*cking idea?!
Love Tommy, no matter how deep, is very perishable.
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Last edited by BobPar; 2012-05-12 at 01:24 PM. Reason: too many losers responding
One does not decide to marry to remain sexless the rest of your life. At least I didnt, unless you know something i don't.
PS latest article in the JT says that many men now want to marry but can't because they are trapped in the cycle of low income temporary work, can not find suitable partners and women do not see such men as a good catch. The break off point for most men is a salary of around 3 million yen a year.
Last edited by KansaiBen; 2012-05-10 at 10:40 AM.
My unprofessional personal opinion is that you see yourself too much of a nice guy. You were scr*wed over by your current wife and are now in the process of repeating the same mistake again - getting blackmailed into it by your 'mistress'. I'd be ready to pay child support but nothing else. Once this part is over, I'd tackle the problem with your current wife.
Last edited by ttokyo; 2012-05-11 at 12:42 PM.
Dear Gaijinpot Admin.,
I am disappointed...Now that I understand the true nature of this forum, I have removed my post.
Last edited by BobPar; 2012-05-12 at 01:27 PM. Reason: ozzjip and other losers like Dredrick
Bob, don't let a couple of vicious posters discourage you. Hopefully a moderator will remove their posts.
What you are going through is called mid-life crisis. It happens, and some marriages survive, and yours may not.
Let's be real, you posted your story not for level-headed advice, but to receive a sympathetic ear for your retarded behavior.
Disclaimer: I've been where you are now, and for many of the same reasons.
It's like that old Samurai saying; One dishonorable deed can erase an entire lifetime of noble acts. It's true. And make no mistake, what you did was inexcusable and indefensible.
Know why? Because you have two kids. How do you think they will react when they find out you fVcked someone else and had a child?
Betrayed is how they will feel. They will hate your guts for a time, and maybe for all time. Either way, their life will never be the same.
You want some good, sound, level-headed advice?
Here it is: Dump your mistress, and have nothing to do with her or the child you made except perhaps for money.
If your mistress decides to blackmail you, (which, as she refuses to have an abortion, looks like that's exactly what she will do.)
well,then you are screwed.
But regardless, you owe your first children way more than your new child.
Especially more loyalty.
Keep your affair secret. No one needs to know, and it's selfish to tell anyone.
End the affair if you can, and just buy a motorcycle and go to soap-land twice a month.
If your wife is a horrible as you say (which I doubt) your kids will forgive you if you divorce her later after they have moved out.
But if they find out what you did, if you were my Dad, I'd think you were the greatest disappointment ever.
And they would be right.
And that's just something you will have to live with forever.
Now man up and deal with it.
Lol. That sounds incredible. Perhaps you speak from expierence?
I could understand breaking free from the chains of oppression, but trading one pair of shackles for another is nuts. Really hope things work out with the mistress, as if she turns out to be a crazy beach also your worse off than a double stuffed oreo in cola. As for the kids hating you, I think if you explain the reasons you broke up with the wife and keep trying to keep a relationship, things could be good. Of course moving to another country kinda makes that point moot.
Anyway, just another opinion to throw on the pile from a randon mid-twenties guy
You and others like you in this forum have spoiled it. You can go to hell. You have no respect for others... this is my last post here.
Don't bother replying either as I'm never returning to GaijinPot... it is just for losers stuck in Japan...
Indeed you are the loser OP.
You screwed around. And what comes around comes around.
Chicks love that word, adorable that is... I can say from experience that "excusable" draws absolutely no affection.
Last edited by ozzijp; 2012-05-18 at 06:46 PM.