Hey everyone. My first post. So I've been living here for about 9 months now with my wife who is Japanese. We're from North America. I don't speak japanese, and because I work mostly from home I don't meet very many people. I have a couple ok gaijins but there is a problem. They always want to go to places where you pay for various levels of female companionship. They are also married and have told me its cool and its the norm here. I have yet to follow up on this offer, but it puts me in a bad spot because they're pretty much the only guys I know and my only chance to really leave the house. I don't want to do anything that would get me in crap with the wife and back home its pretty much "if you can't tell you're wife what you did last night, you shouldn't be doing it". Pretty much loosing my mind here cause I never get out.
What do other people here do if they're invited out for a night with the guys? Do all guys who live in Japan do this sort of thing? HELP!