Happiness

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I vote this statement to go down in the annals of GP as the dumbest thing ever said.

So you disagree with my statement? Why don't you explain why instead of holding on to that grudge you have about me talking ____ about your kind on another thread. Be mature! Try...

[Piethrower]

Fun is relative. I have a lot of fun writing code. Very few people in the world would have any fun whatsoever writing code, much less the amount of enjoyment I get out of it.

I have oodles of fun catching rolled tube socks behind my back. I bet nobody in the whole galaxy enjoys catching socks behind their back as much as me. Even though I'm at my office right now I'm going to take off my socks, roll them up, toss them in the air and - if it be God's will - catch them behind my back. I will also insist that my coworkers, including the mighty Jitcho, gather round to witness my performance. Here's hoping my feet don't smell!

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Now, if you can find a way to turn that into money, you'll find out just how happy you can be!

[Uncompletist]

Wanting, expecting and looking for happiness is so immature and selfish. Just roll with whatever you encounter and learn from both the happy and unhappy moments in life.

Not worrying too much about whether you're happy or not can make you happier.

[YokohamaTommy]

So you disagree with my statement? Why don't you explain why

Because your statement was self-evidently ridiculous, that's why.
I take it comprehension isn't your long suit.

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Because your statement was self-evidently ridiculous, that's why.
I take it comprehension isn't your long suit.

You seem think and talk like a little brat. All of eleven years old, are we?

You state that you disagree with what I say and when asked to elaborate your reason is that's it's ridiculous.

LOL

[Piethrower]

Now, if you can find a way to turn that into money, you'll find out just how happy you can be!

My company pays me very handsomely to catch socks, thank you very much.

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Tommy: "I want to be happy!" "Waaaaaaaaant!!" (*throws a hissifit)

Tommy: "I expect that you make me happy, woman!" (*slaps his wife)

Tommy: "I came to Japan to look for happiness!" (*looks around)

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You should start your own sock catching company. You can advertise it as true excellence in sock catching.

[YokohamaTommy]

Tommy: "I want to be happy!" "Waaaaaaaaant!!" (*throws a hissifit)


Tommy: "I expect that you make me happy, woman!" (*slaps his wife)


Tommy: "I came to Japan to look for happiness!" (*looks around)

As I said, comprehension; Not really what you're good at.

What I said about happiness:
" Happiness cannot be found."

What you said:

Wanting, expecting and looking for happiness is so immature and selfish. Just roll with whatever you encounter and learn from both the happy and unhappy moments in life.

Not only have you misunderstood what everyone else has been posting on the subject,
You've misunderstood even your own post.


You don't even know why your post was asinine, do you?
Sad, really.


Very well, since you've thrown a tantrum, I'll tell you, boy.


It's not selfish or immature to want or seek happiness.
It's fundamental to who we are. Unless your point is to say that we DON'T want to be happy, or we SHOULDN'T try to be happy.
Yes, let's all go through life with the full intention of pain and misery. That'll help our children, wives and families and make us productive!
In which case, how absurd is your reasoning, hence my comment of the same.


The point is to seek it within yourself.
You cannot expect others to give it to you, because they cannot.
It's not a thing to be found, because you already have it.
Do you understand now, little Genki boy?


Now, for being an extra special good listener, you may have ONE, NOT TWO cookies from the cookie jar.
But not my Oreos. Those are Poppa's.

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Pay close attention now, son.

You messed up by disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing. Lets just add it up to the pile of other signs of your immaturity.

Do you know how I know? Because you're now back peddling to say what I said from the start.

It's immature to say that you want happiness. You just added the obvious reason.

Etc etc.

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How is it immature to want happiness?

[thefg]

Wanting, expecting and looking for happiness is so immature and selfish.

no it isnt.

[thefg]

you're now back peddling to say what I said from the start.

no he isnt

It's immature to say that you want happiness.

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no it isnt

[ThaHamburgler]

Tommy: "I want to be happy!" "Waaaaaaaaant!!" (*throws a hissifit)

Tommy: "I expect that you make me happy, woman!" (*slaps his wife)

Tommy: "I came to Japan to look for happiness!" (*looks around)

Perhaps you mean to imply, "life (happiness) is what you make it." Your day, food, your situation, everything depends on attitude. However, not stating so bluntly and simply alluding to the fact like a 21st century David Carradine is slightly disingenuous in my opinion.

As per:

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Fun is relative. I have a lot of fun writing code. Very few people in the world would have any fun whatsoever writing code, much less the amount of enjoyment I get out of it.

Indeed. Perhaps you've heard of the theory of relativity. A group of Hawaiian scientists founded the theory of "the best surfer is the one having the most fun," who also pioneered the thory, "All those people getting in the way and generally being kooks are there to make you a better surfer."

It's complicated, but if you adapt, overcome, improve, and perservere unrivaled success follows desune.

[thefg]

not stating so bluntly and simply alluding to the fact like a 21st century David Carradine is slightly disingenuous in my opinion.
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well said +1

also unjustified seeing as the OP was making the exact same point in the first post in the thread..

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How is it immature to want happiness?

Just wanting happiness (without putting the effort in) is immature and selfish because it's something an immature and selfish person would say. I've met my share of Japanese women, for example, who wanted and expected happiness out of a relationship (through MY actions and paid for from MY wallet) without having a single intention or clue as to how we should make each other happy. Then there are the ones (here and everywhere) that run away from their problems hoping to find happiness elsewhere not realizing that those troubles will just follow them. Etc etc. it's all really a cliche. I thought you've heard of it. I shall try to be more elaborate/precise in the future.

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Just wanting happiness (without putting the effort in)

You didn't say anything about effort in your original post. That changes your whole statement. I'd agree it's immature to want happiness without doing anything to get it, but I disagree with your original statement that just wanting happiness is immature.

[thefg]

Just wanting happiness (without putting the effort in) is immature and selfish because it's something an immature and selfish person would say..

your logic is flawed because you are making the unsupported assumption that anyone (the OP included) want happiness AND are not prepared to put in the effort


flawed logic - bad debater - no soup for you!

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Wanting, expecting and looking for happiness is so immature and selfish. Just roll with whatever you encounter and learn from both the happy and unhappy moments in life.

The above was just a personal observation stated as a personal opinion, not related to the OP or his situation. I thought that was clear from my NOT starting of with "Dear OP" or quoting any part of his post(s). It is also not part of any debate some of you seem so eager to start.

[thefg]

The above was just a personal observation stated as a personal opinion, not related to the OP or his situation. I thought that was clear from my NOT starting of with "Dear OP" or quoting any part of his post(s). It is also not part of any debate some of you seem so eager to start.

more disingenuous posting....as your earlier post to the OP demonstrates

Pay close attention now, son.

You messed up by disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing. Lets just add it up to the pile of other signs of your immaturity.

Do you know how I know? Because you're now back peddling to say what I said from the start.

It's immature to say that you want happiness. You just added the obvious reason.

Etc etc.

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more disingenuous posting....as your earlier post to the OP demonstrates

I have not posted anything to the OP.

You are also disagreeing for the sake of diagreeing, or so it seems.

I have stated a single opinion in regards to "Happiness" and have further explained what I meant by it and how I came to acquire the opinion.

What else do you want?

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It does appear to be some backpedalling.

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It does appear to be some backpedalling.

Nope, I stand by my original post. Added the explanation and reasoning behind it for your convenience.

[Agitator]

Lol sad.

Gee, I guess you're back, again. Your 9lives account sure didn't seem to have that many; it got banned after, what, a day of actual use?

Preposterously,
A.

[thefg]

Nah he just added that now because everyone was disagreeing with him.

no he didnt

Lol sad.

Atleast have a spine.

another incorrect assumption. obviously the fact that i am able to type indicates that i have a spine

[sing_or_die_1818]

i used to think the same way.


1st wife then 2nd wife. It wasnt untill I met my 3rd wife that I had an epiphany.....sounds crazy but here it is


- happiness (in marrage) is a lot easier if you marry the right person!!


I cant honestly say hand on heart looking back why on earth i married the first two. it took meeting wife no.3 to discover that some people are just 'nicer' that others and a better 'fit'


I thank god I escaped! I HONESTLY didnt realise it at the time. I HONESTLY wouldnt have described myself as 'unhappy' but man it wasnt untill I was with someone with whom I am fully matched did I realise how truly unfulfilled i was.


My advice to you is go -a hunting!! Because my god there are people out there with whom you will just fit 100%. No 'work' no 'effort' no 'compromise' - you will just fit.



I hear people say you have to 'work' at a marriage and its not easy - well in my experience that's only true if you haven't married the right person. It took 3 wifes before i married someone who not just understood me but LIKED me for 100% who I am. Amazing feeling being approved of fully. I just have to be myself!

My hope in you reading this is to give you hope that (and this does sound like a cliche I know) there IS someone out there who can make you happier than your ex did. Your job now is to find her.

Good luck

who'd have thought that we could find thoughtful posts on the pot? this reply is pot-on, IMHO. i'm married (2nd time, 2nd j-spouse) and have found myself in a trying situation made more trying by recognition of precisely the fact the above poster mentioned. if i stay with my wife (all but a certainty, at present), i'll feel even worse knowing that i missed the boat by not packing it in far earlier and getting with a person (a specific person whom i was lucky--or not--to have met) with whom things were so easy that i was left wondering what the catch was. i'm sure a lot of people have had this experience. like the above poster, my advice (in 20-20 hindsight) is to choose the path to happiness that presents itself as the obvious choice rather than imagining that, if you stick it out, you'll be the better for it. it's 95% certain (ok, i made that up, but it seems about right) that you won't be, that you'll just be miserable and rue the day you passed on the "too-good-to-be-true" option.

the fact is, it's not about who is the "best" person, but who is the best match, the most compatible partner (obvious, i know, but oft-forgotten). if someone values your good points and forgives your bad ones, you're good to go. if, on the other hand, you're with someone who is obsessed with those aspects in which you may well have your weak points but cannot give credit where credit is due for your good points... good luck.

sorry to hear about your situation. not a novel one, certainly, but i feel for you...