
Originally Posted by
Kaonashi
Marius,
Sweet! That is some of the best writing I've read on this site (not to trumpet your horn too much - there isn't much competition). It should be required reading for Newbies 101.
And yet, consider your concept from another angle:
1) The Grunts
After having been born here,
after having the scenery reduced to a test item,
after having deciding to make a go of it and not jump of the balcony of your rabbit hutch,
learning the language, the manners and culture in the way that the language, manners and culture are delineated,
you might find yourself 10 years later pouring beer (label facing upwards, glass was near empty) to your Japanese boss when out with your all Japanese coworkers from your Japanese company, where you are Japanese.
It has taken you all of your life and devotion to get here, not to mention the cash your parents spent on cram schools and other education, thus preventing them from having any life of their own - a fact that will hang over your head like a Damocles sword until the day you die - yet that was something easily overlooked when you were young and believed in the Japanese myth.
I can make a difference, gosh darn'it.
Yet, 30 years later from your first baby steps, you find yourself in the same pathetic situation your father is in:
People ignore you everywhere. You can't afford to rent most apartments. You're barred from sex with you're wife, and you certainly get a feeling of having overstayed a welcome. Daily. The lady at the health check clinic (baked in your office where thousands people work) doesn't care whether you live or die; she's on the company payroll and only cares about your possible future contribution.
You realize there and then that you were never suppose to be, in this way, only to later die, wondering why everything was not as fantastic as they said it would be back when you were young.
(Actually, you realized that on the day after your university graduation party, but that's another story)
So what can you do?
You drop the overly-Japanese act.
The problem is that your boss might remind you that if you do not act Japanese, you're eminently expendable. In a Japanese manner, of course, that you've no problem picking up.
You've been alive for 30 years. You've sacrificed a lot for seemingly nothing. What can you but to revert to being yourself - not again, but perhaps for the first time?
Not a loudmouth, not especially looking for trouble (self-loathing people do assume that about everyone else, though, now don't they?), just yourself.
You go on with your life sorry that you wasted some of it (at least it was fun) but not looking back. And definitely not playing along, playing Japanese, any more.