A young British friend of mine is in kind of a pickle. This is what he has told me so far...
His Japanese girlfriend of just about half a year is kinda high-maintenance in that she wants just about everything she sees in the brand shops in Ginza and Nihonbashi. He thought he loved her and until now also thought she was probably the perfect girl for him. This whole thing about being obsessed with shopping and stuff has him thinking twice now, though. Nothing seems to be enough with this girl... It's like she has a huge gap to fill. I don't have the details though.
He's got a good job and works really hard and can thus afford her vices but he's thinking that the paying everything for her kinda relationship has gone a bit too far. She has indicated she wants to marry him but he believes that such step at least requires to include a give and take deal and at the moment he feels that he's pretty much the only one giving. He wants her to start giving too. They have sex but he wants more. Affection and that kinda stuff...
Just a few days ago, she told him she's pregnant with his baby and although he wants to tell her that he's happy, he has these serious doubts about the relationship (se above). This is because of what she expects from him out of the relationship. He believes that in the end (especially with a child) it's gonna break him financially and perhaps even mentally.
Now he's pondering whether he loves her enough to go through with the whole thing. He told me in confidence that he might not have loved her from the start and that it was all based on attraction only. He's afraid that all the things he buys for her with his credit card(s) might not be enough for her (them) in the end to stay into a marriage. He thinks it's just gonna be a matter of time before the whole thing blows up. And then what? He's heard about the sexless/loveless marriages with Japanese women and is anxious to end up like that - like a stranger bringing back home his salary and nothing more.

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