Hello everyone,
I have recently found this forum and become a member, to see if I can find a solution for our current BIG problem.
We are a family of 4 from Iran. We have lived in Tokyo for nearly 5 years now. My daughter started 'yochien' here, and now is '2 nen sei'. In 'yochien', from the very beginning, I noticed that she could not make friends. I was surprised, because she was a very sociable girl outside school. For example, she would approach other children in the park and ask 'isshuni asobo?' Of course she is not like that anymore. She has become very shy, because of all the bad experience that she had in 'yochien' and 'shogakko'.
Soon I realized the main problem is that we are foreigners, that's why the children do not hang out with my daughter. For example, last week in the park I noticed that the 'oni' would not try to catch "her" in 'onigokko', even when she was quite nearby. This really broke my heart. Recently she complains from headache and belly pain, which I believe are basically psychological, not physical.
My other child is a disabled 4 year old son, for whom I have to spend a lot of time, so I have not really had time to learn Japanese or to mix with other mothers, which I believe adds to the problem. Before I forget, my daughter is the best student in her class, specially in ekanjif, which I believe again adds to the problem.
We have even decided to move to another "æ" and home-school my daughter, but I thought I seek help here first. I want to know if this problem could be solved somehow? Has anyone had a similar experience? Are Japanese children generally like that with foreigners? Or it is just us?
Any experience, suggestion, advice is greatly appreciated. I am really worried about my daughterfs physical and mental condition.
I have recently found this forum and become a member, to see if I can find a solution for our current BIG problem.
We are a family of 4 from Iran. We have lived in Tokyo for nearly 5 years now. My daughter started 'yochien' here, and now is '2 nen sei'. In 'yochien', from the very beginning, I noticed that she could not make friends. I was surprised, because she was a very sociable girl outside school. For example, she would approach other children in the park and ask 'isshuni asobo?' Of course she is not like that anymore. She has become very shy, because of all the bad experience that she had in 'yochien' and 'shogakko'.
Soon I realized the main problem is that we are foreigners, that's why the children do not hang out with my daughter. For example, last week in the park I noticed that the 'oni' would not try to catch "her" in 'onigokko', even when she was quite nearby. This really broke my heart. Recently she complains from headache and belly pain, which I believe are basically psychological, not physical.
My other child is a disabled 4 year old son, for whom I have to spend a lot of time, so I have not really had time to learn Japanese or to mix with other mothers, which I believe adds to the problem. Before I forget, my daughter is the best student in her class, specially in ekanjif, which I believe again adds to the problem.
We have even decided to move to another "æ" and home-school my daughter, but I thought I seek help here first. I want to know if this problem could be solved somehow? Has anyone had a similar experience? Are Japanese children generally like that with foreigners? Or it is just us?
Any experience, suggestion, advice is greatly appreciated. I am really worried about my daughterfs physical and mental condition.
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