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  • Protocol for Dating Japanese Guy

    Hello,

    I just started a relationship a japanese man.

    Today he has asked me to come out with him somewhere so he can introduce me to his friends and one of his siblings. Is there some sort of social protocols I should be aware of in this instance? So far, its been a complete shock with this one; he's nothing like I've read J-guys are suppose to be like. He kisses me in public, holds my hand, opens doors for me- extremely gentleman-like. No hint of aggressive or jealous behavior. Its been just like dating a shyer, nerdy american... with a cool accent and more to contribute in conversation. So I would assume I'd be okay flying in blind on this one, but I just wanted to double check.

    Are there any future situations I should be aware of in terms of being cultural different from the western dating practices? Are there any women out there whom are in a successful relationship with a japanese dude? Any Advice?

  • #2
    Originally posted by whitwhit View Post
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    Are there any future situations I should be aware of in terms of being cultural different from the western dating practices? Are there any women out there whom are in a successful relationship with a japanese dude?
    yea, no. you could be the first to experience that!


    ... although, I can recommend the "sight impaired flight attendant & the frequent flyer" as a fun role-play in the love hotel....

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    • #3
      Wow. Looks like someone ate some negative pie today, maybe with a nice serving of inappropriate on top.

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      • #4
        That is the way it goes around here, but it is done just in fun! Op first search for answers to your questions more likely it has been answered a 1,000 times before, if you can not find an answer, then post but be ready for smart a$$ed answers eventually someone will answer or give you a link to where you can find the answer to your question ! And getting upset and replying will not help, it will just make things worse. Dating a Jman is not different than dating an American man, Jmen however, tend to be shy around foreign women, unless they have been down that road before. The introducing of friends and siblings does not signify anything special, other than he likes you now if he starts talking about meeting his parents then he is considering something a lot more.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by whitwhit View Post
          Wow. Looks like someone ate some negative pie today, maybe with a nice serving of inappropriate on top.
          Ooh, I wanna smother that pie in inappropriateness.

          At some point, whitwhit, he may wish to show you his inter-racial porn collection. You should admire it and opine passionately that the AV industry in Japan deserves a massive amount of credit for championing diversity and drawing pleasure from prejudice.

          Basically, just butter him the way you would an American turkey. Jeezus, put on a clean pair of gonch and live it up - nobody can divine the freakin' future for ya.

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          • #6
            Just don't be too loud. Dress nicely, don't get too drunk. :-)

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Shiratama Dango View Post
              Just don't be too loud. Dress nicely, don't get too drunk. :-)
              Very sage advice. I think it would be instructive if we could watch you get dressed for a date.

              However, I would caution against dressing TOO nicely because a Japanese guy will spit shoyu all over his date's boobs. It's a cultural thing. And while you don't wanna get too drunk, you don't wanna be more sober than your BF either or you may begin to question why you're dating him.

              Also, later that night when he's giving you wood, you should scream 'homu ran' over and over as loud as you possibly can. But I'm sure you already knew that...

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Piethrower View Post
                Also, later that night when he's giving you wood, you should scream 'homu ran' over and over as loud as you possibly can...
                I laughed at that. And If you want to freak him out just scream, "surrender Dorothy" over and over. Geez I love that flick. (After Hours for those wondering)

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