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  • Originally posted by JapanMan24 View Post
    I'm glad this thread got resurrected. Cause the OP was right, these forums are full of the failures and very few people talk about their successes.

    I've been married to a Japanese woman for 4 years now (dating for 6 years prior to marriage in Tokyo). Moved to the U.S. 2 years ago. Everything is going great.

    My Guide to any Gaijin considering to marry a Japanese woman:

    1. Make sure the siblings like you: The brother isn't as important as he is probably too busy working himself to death to care. But, if she has a sister, then make her sister your best friend. If the sister hates you, she will ruin your image with the in-laws. On the flip side, if the sister loves you (like in my case) she will tell the in-laws wonderful things thus improving your relationship with them.

    2. If the parents don't like you or don't approve of you. DO NOT GET MARRIED. The parent's opinion is everything to a Japanese woman. So don't even waste your time. Just refer to this forum if you need examples. If you get married against the in-law's approval, she will eventually listen to their sh$t talking and steal your children and run back to her hometown.

    3. Learn Japanese. You don't have to be fluent but understanding basic conversation and cultural rules is a must because it shows your wife that you respect her and her culture.

    4. Have a serious discussion before you get married. Tell her that in your culture women are expected to continue to work after they get married. Ask her if she is 100% ok with this fact. Do NOT marry a Japanese woman who is expecting to retire from work right after you get married.
    Also might want to discuss:
    -Where you will live together, long term. Ask her if she is open to the idea of moving back to your home country.
    -Where and how you plan to raise your kids. Ask he if she is ok with having the baby sleep in a crib and not in the bed with the parents. Tell her that in your culture Parents still have sex and are romantic even after they have kids. This seems like common sense but ask her how her parents act towards each other and you will see the huge difference.

    If you have any other questions send me a message or post here. I'll give you any advice that I have from my personal experiences.


    Cheers!
    Have you got children yet? Marriage tends to become more difficult then.

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    • Originally posted by thefg
      Very happily married to a japanese girl.
      Isn't that pedophilia? I'm happily married to a J-woman.

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      • Originally posted by Hijinx View Post
        Isn't that pedophilia? I'm happily married to a J-woman.
        Schoolboy?

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        • Originally posted by cucashopboy View Post
          Have you got children yet? Marriage tends to become more difficult then.
          ..or becomes even better.

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          • Happily married for sixteen years.

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            • Originally posted by Hijinx View Post
              Isn't that pedophilia? I'm happily married to a J-woman.
              Look at the girls, but married a woman. Married since sometime in the Showa Era and still going.

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              • Originally posted by Mr. Ludd View Post
                Married since sometime in the Showa Era and still going.

                Since sometime? You must be a hit with the wife on your anniversary.

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                • Originally posted by thefg
                  you say tomato i say WMD - whats in a name
                  I never said tomato.

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                  • Originally posted by Hijinx View Post
                    Since sometime? You must be a hit with the wife on your anniversary.
                    At my age just getting the decade right is hard enough.

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                    • Originally posted by cucashopboy View Post
                      Have you got children yet? Marriage tends to become more difficult then.
                      If you have kids, marriage becomes an unfortunate byproduct. No kids? What is the point? Seems seriously superfluous.

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